Things I believe in.

Hello all new followers!!! If you're stopping by from the Life of Bon, hello and welcome.  (For everyone else, I did a guest post on Bonnie's blog yesterday.  It's the one time I talk fondly about my past so go read it.)  And if you're new here, I'm super excited to have you.  I was thinking of ways to introduce myself and then figured, everybody who reads my blog knows about all the things I DON'T believe in---I don't believe in any religion, I don't believe in forcing bad family relationships, I don't believe in catering to the corporate-based phenomenons and 'feminism', I don't believe in ketchup...

So it might be good for everyone to understand some of the things I do believe in.   And besides, at a stressful time of year and right before another inter-continental move, it's good to remind myself what I believe in as well. 

I believe that I have the best friends in the entire universe.  They not only put up with my hermity, neurotic ways, but they always listen when I need it and always reassure me when I'm down.  I am not sure what I've done to deserve such good friends, but I never take them for granted and prefer to hug the life out of them every single time I see them.  

I believe that laughter is the best medicine, and that most people who have morbid, cynical senses of humor are either extremely intelligent, have seen a lot of shit in their lives, or both.  I don't think there's anything one 'shouldn't joke about'...I believe our existence is a joke sometimes and we shouldn't take ourselves, the world, society, or anything too personally.  The moment something is above joking is the moment it becomes oppressive to the human spirit.  You will hear A LOT of inappropriate things coming from me. 

I believe travel, art, good music, sleep, hot tea or coffee, and a good book or show is the best way to enjoy life.  Things don't matter so much to me, and I don't need many relationships.  The American dream of the nice house, nice car, white picket fence, and two or three beautiful children does not appeal to me in the slightest, and in fact frightens me to no end.  I have all I need in the people in my life and the creativity in my brain.  I want to be able to get away whenever, I want to be able to sleep in whenever, and I must have a certain amount of chocolate to balance it all out. 

I believe that a good relationship has little to do with romance. I think the number one thing that makes it work is understanding.  Henri has no idea of what I've gone through in my life, but he makes every effort to listen and understand.  And I have no clue how things work in Sweden and why he does half the stuff he does, but I work to understand things.  It's so wonderful every time he gets me flowers, make no mistake, but when I can tell that he really understands that I don't want to be at a party because I hate the human race and want to go lie in bed, or when he understands that being in Sweden is hard for me and I just need to cry about it....that's the times when I feel closest to him.  Find someone who loves and wants to understand you, and I think you're set.  

I believe in respecting the one body I have and being responsible with nature, which means buying good quality food, not a lot of animal products, and never wearing fur or buying leather and all those obscenely unnecessary things which hurt our animal buddies.  I prefer animals to people for the most part, you'll hear me mention this on the blog sometimes.  I still have a ravenous addiction to sugar and I can out-soda-drink the president of Coca-Cola himself.  I think things are great in moderation and over-obsessing about health is the same as over-obsessing about anything else in life.  

I also believe in egalitarianism, the philosophy that no one is better than anyone and that we are all deserving of the same rights.  When most feminists who push for equality are serious about actually really truly wanting equality, the principles they're talking about are egalitarian.  Marriage equality is something I can't believe we're even still discussing.  Uteruses have nothing to do with government.  With my egalitarian beliefs comes a huge sense of apathy toward the world.  You'll see a lot of my apathy here as well.

And finally--I know, it's an overwhelming list--I believe in being candidly honest.  I didn't start this blog to be happy and fruffy and paint a nice picture of a perfect life.  I write about uncomfortable things sometimes, like child abuse and suicide, because I don't believe anything is too taboo to not discuss.  Talking is healing, and you never know who needs to hear raw words to help them in their own journeys and understandings.  I may not have the popular opinions, but trust me, whatever my opinions are, you'll hear them.

Think you can stomach all this? Great!!! I look forward to bringing in the new year with everyone.  I'm currently disgustingly sick, but that's all part of winter, right?


  1. your ol TN buddy ;3December 19, 2013 at 4:18 PM

    These are all the things that make you great :) im near impossible to offend with jokes or anything, either. Its our fieriness lol leo and saggitarius. Youre far more open than myself at saying whats on your mind though lol one big reason i deactivated my fb. Everyone is whiny and stupid and i caught myself wanting to be a smart ass daily :) and in total agreance about relationships as well!

  2. Awesomely Over-ZealousDecember 20, 2013 at 7:19 PM

    I like your beliefs and think they're what every human should fundamentally possess - however, and unfortunately, not so. I like to hear the raw and the ugly so I look forward to your words and opinions. I also agree that everything should be funny and we shouldn't take things so seriously. Laugh, it's good for you. Hope you feel better Patricia! -Iva

  3. Love this list! xx

  4. Yes I always forget you're a sag---some of my favorite people on the earth, because they're so much nicer and quieter than me, but we have the EXACT same thoughts that would shock and offend people hahaha. y u no get a blog emily so you can MAKE YOUR VOICE HERD and so I can stalk you

  5. Yaaay! I'm so happy you found me!!! I'm glad you can relate--sometimes I feel so isolated in this politically correct society. :D

  6. Oooh raw and ugly, that's some of this blog's entries in a nutshell bahaha. Thanks for your awesome words Iva! I hope my posts don't disappoint!

  7. Just found your blog from Life of Bon...I love it! So refreshingly honest and to the point. A lot of blogs sugar-coat daily life- only show the good, happy, beautifully decorated times in life. I love how you don't shy away from the hard stuff. I read all your posts about foster care, and they really changed my perspective on the system. I hadn't even met anyone who was a foster kid- I had no idea. Thank you for opening up & I'm looking forward to reading your blog regularly. Also, I want to visit Sweden now!

  8. Yup. Love your blog - have for a while - and find your beliefs awesome and refreshingly honest. I always enjoy reading your entries. You know what I love most? You respect the right to a different opinion. You're aces with disagreement because you understand that people are unique. As long as people are respectful and not outright douchecanoes about it. I just really appreciate that.