On Friendship.

I never understood the value of a true friend until now.  
It's a bond that transcends everything; family, love.  
The things we spend time worrying and stressing about.
Money, possessions, and the like. 

A friend has no need to be anything for you.  They have no need to be there.
They are there because they want to be, because they care.
With no other motives in mind and no personal gain, they are just there.
They help us up, they push us forward, because they see something in us.
Something we don't always see in ourselves.

Or actually, they see many things in us.
And we see many things in them.
So much potential, and so much to give to the world.
There's no codependence, no real need for expectations or boundaries.
Friends know these things, and they respect them.

I've known lots of different kinds of love and loss, everyone has.
But now I see through everything to the core of our human relationships.
And every family member, every lover, husband, wife.  Every revered relation.
Friendship is what binds us and holds us together through the best and worst of times.

And sometimes it's perceived like it's dirty, or not good enough.
Only a friend, nothing more.  That can hurt.  It makes people feel inferior.
It used to make me feel that way, but I understand better now.
Just what an amazing privilege it is to have a friend.  

I'm not talking about a fair weather friend.  A true friend.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." 

I am happy for the people I've met, the things I've learned.
I am even happy for the bad relationships, because I learned a lot and grew into a better person.
I know I have a lot of love to give to someone special one day.
But nothing in the world is as important to me as a friend.

and go find a few friends and tell them you love them. or hug them. or make them a cake. 

1 comment :

  1. Hi! Just discovered your blog :) Really enjoyed reading this post. Friendship is precious. I have one real good friend, met when we 10. Even today we still don"t know how we played and understood each other (I didn't speak a word of french and she didn't speak a word of english).
    take care